Who amongst us wants to criticize and condemn (cancel?) anyone who is honestly trying their best with what they know or have to work with?
Not many of us . . .
. . . maybe not any of us . . .
So . . . what’s with all this criticizing and condemning that’s going on? Ah, I see. You mostly don’t trust that anyone (specifically the someone you’re interacting with) is honestly trying their best . . . because how would you know? Right?
Fair question. It’s cute that you think that it has no real answer.
So . . . here’s how you can see for yourself, assess for yourself, and trust for yourself if a person is honestly trying:
You watch them as they take on board new information, perspectives, and suggestions . . . and then they adapt, adjust, and expand with and into them. They act in new and different ways . . . not all at once and not skillfully at first . . . but we can sense the earnestness of the try. This is what we can all trust and support. This is what we can begin to believe in for ourselves and then with one another.
All else is false. Falsehoods are misleading and lead us to repeat behaviors while we claim we are not. Repetition can lead to learning. It teaches us that we have to stop what’s not working in order to make space for something new. It’s a slow grow. Most of us experience it . . . as feeling stuck.
Honestly, isn’t this your own experience with yourself?