The truth of our collective and accumulated experience seems to be clear enough: there are no shortcuts to self-awareness and no substitute for it either. Our happiness, that is to say, the satisfaction of our essential yearning for fulfillment, love, and joy, is directly related to our willingness to pay close attention to what we feel, think, say, and do. This ‘paying attention’ has nothing to do with editing or censoring or judging. It has everything to do with simply ‘noticing’ ourselves. It is about honesty. Our growth and the adjustments we make as we become more in touch with ourselves all begin with and depend upon our candor.
And our kindness.
The world at large and our world within doesn’t need another zealot; telling and yelling, scolding and holding us hostage to some distorted version of some vision of what ‘should’ be done.
And neither really need another martyr either; forlorn and forsaken, suffering and dying for intentions misunderstood and purposes unknowable.
We have had zealots and martyrs galore throughout time; and still, we are here.
When we are zealously tempted to carry more than our portion of anything (job, relationship, conversation, etc.), we can easily lapse into trying to control, direct, or manage others. This has never worked out well for us or them.
When we feel sorry for ourselves and want someone else to carry us, to tell us what’s best for us, we abdicate our responsibility for ourselves. This has never worked out well for us or for them.
The world depends on each of us;
no one more so than another;
no one less so.