Once we look past the surface of circumstances, the impetus, the driving energy that escalates disagreements into violence has never been complicated, and it rarely is because we started out wanting to hurt anybody . . . not that we’ll admit to anyway.
So nope, in general, ugliness and brutality are not our intentions at the start. (It’s important to remember that . . . it factors in later.)
What we all want is to be taken seriously
And we want to show you how serious we can be,
once we make our minds up and
if you are doing over there, what I am doing over here
we’re both in serious trouble
we end up killing one another just to prove how serious we are.
I’ve been offering, in these postings, and in various styles and manners, a tried and true off-ramp. I didn’t invent it. I didn’t discover it. I’m just using it.
Let’s all take each other seriously from the very start.
That means we will have to start at the start by also being honest and open.
If we try together, starting now(ish) as best we can(ish), perhaps, we can feel our way around the unhappy, excruciatingly painful experiences of the senselessness we devolve into.
This is a home-grown solution . . . it is not a ready-made transplanted kit of caring . . .
It begins and takes place with each and every more loving choice we make.