I have discovered, much to my cosmic delight, that being fall-ible… you know, making mistakes, not being perfect ever, AKA, having moments of “oops” and “ah shits”… is a natural element of my humanity. It is unavoid-able.
When we are facing the unknown, we can do our honest best and be completely mistaken. We can honestly believe something and find out later how far from the truth it actually was.
Now, I mentioned delight about this discovery because I also have been shown that when I am honest with you about a misstep or a misspeak or whatever I feel I would like to do ‘better’ the next time, that this does not make me any less love-able as a person.
Here’s been my experience: When I am open and honest and earnestly attempt to be honestly honest with you about what I readily admit was my responsibility unskillfully executed (a swing and a miss, an oversight, an undersight, etc, etc…)
I am somehow more love-able
more at peace within myself
and with you….
and you with me (based upon our continued relationship, not wishful thinking)
this was and continues to be an unexpected joy associated with being
mistake-able forgive-able learn-able and, yes, love-able.
When I trust the truth enough to have the courage to speak honestly, kindly, and plainly, my abilities as a human in process improve. Honesty is the key. A person who is deliberately misleading, misdirecting, i.e. lying is loveable as a human being. They are also miserable. Just watch them squirm.